QUESTIONS FOR A WIFE INTENTIONALLY CREATING HER MARRIAGE

Questions

What is your relationship with Christ?

- Is he an active part of your life? Or do you only reach out when things are hard?

- Is he YOUR way, YOUR truth, and YOUR life in life?

- Do you seek him daily?

- How do you show him he is the most important relationship you have?

- Do you spend time with him in the temple?

- Is it a check box relationship, or one you live for?

- Is he your foundation, or your sidekick?

- How is this showing up in your life?

What is your vision of marriage?

- Is it in alignment with what God says creates a successful marriage, or is it persuaded by cultural attitudes on men and marriage?

- Is it centered in self and self gratification, or in service and love?

- Are there any revisions you'd like to make to your vision of marriage?

Who are your role models in marriage?

- Are there any couples who you see which you love the dynamic of their relationship and the home and family and life they have created together?

- Why?

- What do they seek individually and as a couple which make their marriage work?

- How is God central in their life?

- If you don't have any role models, do you pray for some?

What are your close examples of marriage?

- How do they work?

- How do they not work?

- Is one person above another?

- How does their marriage effect their children?

- What are the attitudes about Men and Women which are exemplified in these marriages?

- What do you want to keep from these examples?

- What do you feel you must do differently to achieve the marriage you hold vision for?

What do you watch or listen to (tv shows, celebrity gossip, gossip from friends and co-workers, music, books, audio books, scriptures, latter day prophets, social media, exc.) which supports you in your vision of what you hope for in marriage?

What do you watch or listen to (tv shows, celebrity gossip, gossip from friends and co-workers, music, books, audio books, scriptures, latter day prophets, social media, exc.) which is against or not in alignment with your vision of what you hope for in marriage?

- Are there things you believe you should have, or ways you believe you should be treated? Where do those things come from? Are they from God or current culture of society? Are they true or are they misleading?

Do you know what is required of you if you desire to have a Godly, Joyful, harmonious, loving, respectful marriage?

- Have you studied what God says about marriage?

- What does it mean to be a godly woman and a virtuous wife?

- What attitudes are the Sugar ones? Sugar, soda, coffee, caffeine, vaping, drinking, drugs have a desirable effect at the time of use, but its effects over time are damaging. What attitudes destroy and tear down over time?

-What attitudes are apple ones (or any other while food which sounds nourishing to you)? What attitudes are the ones which nourish and build upon each other over time?

Is your husband your first among men?

- I'm NOT asking how you "feel" about him. I'm asking about your treatment of him. This is an attitude and posture of marriage.

- Do you place him above all other people in priority?

- Is he above your child in importance? (That doesn't mean we neglect our child, quite the contrary. The best thing we can do for our child is to be a good partner to their Dad, and place him as our first among men. It provides opportunity for him to be the man we would hope our sons become and daughters desire to choose as a model for their future companion).

- Does he come before your animals and your home in importance?

- Does he come before your church calling?

- Does he come before your career?

- Does he come before your colleagues and girlfriends?

- Are you interested in him?

- What do you intentionally do to demonstrate he is your first among men?

- Do you do something daily and weekly to treat him in this manner?

- Is this part of your planning in life?